October 2, 2016
How to Family: Dating
Sunday marked the beginning of a new series, How to Family. This important series is a biblical and practical look at the most important relationships in our lives. Pastor Andy got us started with this message on dating.
The problem with talking about dating from a biblical perspective is that there isn’t much dating in the Bible. This is a relatively new phenomenon, so we need to go to Scripture to find biblical principles that we can apply to our modern social convention. Pastor Andy gave us three principles to apply to these important relationships.
First, seek wisdom from the wise. Proverbs 18:25 says, “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.” When we’re young and in love, we aren’t that great at being objective. In order to make wise decisions (and what decision is more important than deciding who to marry?), we need to seek the input of wise people.
Second, lose your life for Christ and you will find it. In Matthew 16:25, Jesus said, “Whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” The biggest problem that many of us bring to dating, and then into out marriages, is that we are trying to find ourselves (our lives, purpose, and meaning) in someone or something other than God. But we can only find ourselves in our Creator.
Third, do not awaken love before its time. Song of Solomon 2:7 says, “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Sexual intimacy was designed by God to properly function within the commitment of marriage.